Body language may not be something we can hear, but it’s certainly something we can see while speaking to others – if we happen to be paying close attention, that is.
How your body looks during the process of communicating can say a lot about your mood, your level of comfort (or discomfort) and even how confident you are in the skin you’re in.
So how do we know what another person’s body language is telling us during times of conversation?
3 Ways Your Body Language Can Speak Louder Than Words
Some signs are more obvious than others, but many are so obvious that we often don’t have to take a closer look just to notice.
All of these, of course, will depend on the scenario the individual finds themselves in, e.g. work related socializing, meetings, etc typically make people subconsciously do these things as opposed to fun and relaxed social settings.
If a person you are speaking to has their arms crossed, yeah, there’s that slight chance that they are cold.
Many times however, this can be a sign of nervousness, anxiousness, fear, discomfort and even pure disinterest.
This typically happens in more serious situations or people they aren’t very familiar with.
In more relaxed settings, people are more comfortable, and therefore, don’t always move their arms in such nervous manners.
If a person is rubbing their hands together often, that’s yet another sign of nervousness, discomfort, fear, etc. People aren’t always aware that they are doing this, and usually, it’s their way of calming themselves down in uncomfortable situations.
When a person is more comfortable, they don’t tend to move their hands around at all, but rather keep them in their lap, etc.
Legs and Feet
One of the most obvious giveaways that a person is experiencing discomfort is that they will sit there and shake or move their legs or their feet around.
This helps some people think better and stay on track with what they’re trying to communicate, and also helps those that are fearful, nervous, anxious.
Again, it’s yet another way for a person to help calm themselves down.
There are obviously many more ways that our body language can make it obvious how we are really feeling underneath it all, but these are three of the biggest and most telling.
If you want to be a smoother communicator, try to be aware of these tells, and catch yourself when you are doing them so you can correct course.